6 Reasons: Why The (PUA)Pick Up Artist Community Fails
Today, I decided to check an old pick up artist forum. I wanted to see what they were currently teaching guys. It’s been nearly 6 years since I stopped reading pua content and going to their websites. I thought the days of the gurus who taught guys to become social robots were gone.
But for my surprise it seems that it’s currently even worse or maybe I am just more aware of all the bullshit. Anyway, I felt so disgusted that I decided to write a post with my concerns.
1) Guys Treat Women As Objects
They use terms such as: targets, hb (hot babe), sets etc… f-close(when they ended having sex with a girl), k-close (they kissed her) and other crap.
The problem with all this computer geek lingo is that guys are treating women like they were objects. How can you ever connect emotionally with someone when you consider her an object? You can’t because you don’t see her as a human being with feelings but rather something that you need to win.
2) Laid Counter
They only focus on having sex with women. Therefore, objectifying women even more.
They don’t understand that sex is just a small part of everything. There was a moment in my life where I was doing this because of everything I read. Did I felt happier? No… most of the times I would have sex with a girl who I didn’t felt any connection. It was pretty damn boring. Being a lady’s man isn’t just about having sex with women…
What Is It About?
- It’s knowing how to connect emotionally with high quality women.
- It’s about having choice with women.
- It’s about having a great time with them.
- It’s about living the life that makes you feel happy.
- It’s about becoming a more confident, sexy and wise man each day…
3) Sticky Points
These guys create a strategy for everything.
- “How To Kiss A Girl?”
- “How To Take Her Home”
- “You are at her place how to get into bed”
The list never ends there is always a new issue. There is always something else you need to know. These gurus create a sticky point for everything that you could imaginably think and develop a new product around it. The only thing they want is to earn some good cash while they serve you a pile of shit.
I know… I know I’m quite piss at this because I used to be one believing in this crap.
There aren’t sticky points. When you have a strong mindset, such problems don’t even come to your mind. You are just there with her and having a great time. Eventually things just happen you both kiss each other. If things get really hot sometimes she invites you to her place etc.
It’s something that you shouldn’t really worry because each situation is different.
Yeah it may sound simple but that is how it is.
I know some guys might have a hard time believing in this because they are constantly in their head. They think that they need to know what to in every single situation and that is bullshit. Many times I don’t know what to do. I just let it be.
This kind of sticky point mentality only ruins the beauty of the moment that you may have with a woman. It makes you over-analyse everything. It keeps you in your head and prevents you from actually enjoying your time.
4) Pick Up Lines And Routines
I won’t go much in detail with this because I already did in ” Do Corny Pick-Up Lines and Strategies Ever Work?”
If you have problems talking with women than pick up lines aren’t the solution. The reason is they don’t really resolve your real problem, which is lack of social skills.
When you rely in them besides you looking awkward as hell; you don’t actually learn how to speak freely with women because you are constantly saying the same crap over and over again.
There is only one way to resolve this issue and that is? You need to talk with more women until you feel confident.
5) Alpha Male/ Bad Boy Wannabe’s
These guys are trying to become someone who they aren’t. I saw a few posts where guys where treating women badly so they would look cool.
They don’t understand why bad boys are actually good with women. They most likely think it’s because they treat women like crap and it has nothing to do. The fact is bad boys have a lot of women due to their positive qualities.
They are confident (at least they act), adventurous etc.
Another part where the PUA community goes extremely wrong is their obsession in wanting to be an alpha male. When you are constantly thinking about all your actions, such as:
- How to look more cool.
- How to look more confident.
- How to look this and that… …and you need to go to a forum and ask then guess what?
You are the exact opposite of a confident man. You turn into someone who is extremely outcome oriented that is constantly looking for other people approval.
The fact is being a leader has mostly to do with the way you think about yourself. You are and you know you are you don’t act as one.
This is something that every man can become by changing the way they view themselves.
6) AMOGing Other Man
This is an expression that means a PUA attempting to devalue another guy, who he considers has more value than him. This way he can look cooler and impress the girls who he is with.
This is one of the worse things a guy could ever do. It actually stops you from becoming better.
When you see another guy that has more success than you just respect him. He is better because he has more knowledge, he knows more and you can learn from him. Being an ignorant asshole won’t get you anything in life.
There is definitely a lot more that I wanted to write but this article is getting really huge. Although, from my experience and from being in the Lisbon PUA lair.
These teachings are actually making guys become even worse with women and in life. They become obsess with technics and some even gain hate towards women. I must say that 6 years ago when I was in the PUA community. It was the worse years of my life. I never felt so much hate and frustration. That is exactly what I see with every guy who is this for a certain period of time.